Posts tagged gay
Being queer doesn’t excuse you from privilege. You can be a white queer racist, a queer male misogynist, a cis queer trans*phobe, a wealthy queer classist, or any number of other oppressive things and the sooner you educate yourself to this the better off our whole community will be, because contrary to media depiction, queer people aren’t all white middle-class gay men!
My sister just compared me being gay to my purple potato…
So tonight we had the whole family over for dinner. With our dinner we had these fingerlings potatoes and mine were darker than everyone else’s. So I bit into mine and noticed it was purple on the inside. I freaked out because I mean who has ever heard of purple potatoes? But my mum was like “that’s how they’re supposed to be.” I didn’t care, I kept making a big deal out of my purple potatoes. Finally my sister says “Hey those potatoes were born that way. Why are you white? Why do you have blonde hair and blue eyes? Why are you a female?… see?” And then she turned to my mother, who is always very hypocritical and in denial of me being gay and goes “Sometimes, things are just born a certain way and it’s okay. It’s still normal. That’s just how it is. And you’re right, that’s how they’re supposed to be.” The whole table just stared at her and went silent… until it sunk in and I started laughing my ass off. I love my sister. And I love the subtle cracks she takes against my homophobic parents. Grandmum still thinks that whole spiel was about the potatoes being purple.
don’t cry over spilled homo
Homo, Oreo’s perfect match.
The Coming Out Letter I Never Wrote
One of the art majors at my school is working on a Senior comps project and is looking for material related to coming out letters. Here is a blurb from the survey page:
I am currently working on an art project that will hopefully lead to the work that I will present as a part of my senior exercise in Studio Art. The work will be displayed in Gund Gallery at Kenyon College next April.
The current title and theme of the project is “The Coming Out Letter I Never Wrote”. I will be writing a semi-fictional narrative to be included in an audiovisual installation and I would greatly ideas that might help me develop the narrative.
The survey has only one text box to fill. Questions are attached to guide your responses but feel free to include any ideas you feel that are related to the theme.
Here is the link: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/N2LSRM5
Go share a letter! or at least pass on the link to friends who would be interested in helping him out!
Here’s a shoutout to the folks who aren’t coming out today.
Because I used to be one of you, and in some ways still am (and probably always will be).
Because people deserve to have their choices honored, and that right still applies if self-protection means “no, I will not come out.”
Because it doesn’t always get better.
Because “out” often means follow-up questions like “out enough?” and “out to who?” and judging others based on that.
Because “out” is not the same for all orientations, for all bodies, for all races, for all ethnicities, for all religions (just to name a few variables). (Dan Savage’s and Ellen Degeneres’ “out,” for example, has nothing to do with me.)
Because visibility is nothing without some serious examination of what happens next.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re visible as part of my community - your identities are no less valid than mine, and I’m glad to stand somewhere near you under the giant queer umbrella.
Relevant last year when I wrote it, relevant now.
Also a reminder that coming out is not a singular event! It is a continual process (unfortunately), which often involves making judgement calls and keeping things on a need-to-know basis. I haven’t come out to my coworkers yet because I don’t know much about them and I have no idea how they’ll react. And that’s okay! Do what you can!
^ I haven’t either! And I ask my friends, should they stop into my office, to refer to me by the name that’s on my birth certificate. I’m not ready to “come out” here, and that’s okay.